Stop Blaming Others

Chapter 22 ~ Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff

When something doesn’t meet our expectations, many of us operate with assumption, “When in doubt, it must be someone else’s fault.” You can see this assuption in action almost everywhere you look—something is missing, so someone else must have moved it; the car isn’t working right, your expences exceed your income, so your spouse must be spending too much money; the house is a mess, so you must be the only person doing your part; a project is late, so your colleagues at work must have not done their share—and on and on it goes. 

This type of blaming thinking has become extremely common in our culture. On a personal level, it has let us to believe that we are never completely reasponsible for our own actions, problems, or happiness. On a societal level, it has led to frivolous lawsuits, and ridiculous excuses that get criminals off the hook. When we are in the habit of blaming others,  we will blame others for our anger, frustrations, depession, stress, and unhappiness. 

In terms of personal happiness, you cannot be peaceful while at the same time blaming others,  Surely there are times when other people and / or circumstances contribute to our problems, but it is we who must rise to the occasion and take responsibility for our own happiness. Circumstances don’t make a person, they reveal him or her.

As an experiment, notice what happens when you stop blaming others for anything and everything in your life.  This doesn’t mean you don’t hold people accountable for their actions, but that you hold yourself accountable for your own happiness and for your reactions to other people and the circumstances around you. When the house is a mess, rather than assuming you’re the only person doing your part, clean it up! When you’re over budget, figure out where you can spend less money. Most important, when you’re unhappy, remind yourself that only you can make yourself happy. 

Blaming others takes an enormous amount of mental energy. It’s a “drag-me-down” mindset that creates stress and disease. Blaming makes you feel powerless over your own life because your happiness is contingent on the actions and behavior of others, which you can’t control. When you stop blaming others, you will regain your sense of personal power. You will see yourself as a choice maker.  You will know that when you are upset,  you are playing a key role in the creation of your own feelings. This means that you can also play a key role in creating new, more positive feelings. Life is a great deal more fun and much easier to manage when you stop blaming others.  Give it a try and see what happens.

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DIY crochet dark sole slippers, 2 yrs to adult XXL

 

 

If you ever see or hear this terminology WIP it means work in progress. What project your working on? or many time the person says What project do you have on your Hook? I have been watching this video for 2 days straight. This Lady who owns the video I will be following her on YouTube channel. Her instructions are easy to follow and simple, and I love simple.  When I was a little about ten years old my Mother taught us children how to Crochet and when I was that young I just wanted to be a kid. At ten I was also taught many other things cook, laundry, clean, taking care of our pets, and always pick the fruit off the tree’s when it’s ripe, giggles. Life back then was really good. I don’t want to get sidetracked in talking cause for me I would usually go into another topic, giggles.  This is what I have on my hook one slipper using J / 6.00 mm also using the Red Heart With Love color Merlot with two strands of yarn together, Pretty easy to work with.

Enjoy the Video, She is Amazing!   and of course and as always,

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Manly Man’s sweater Crochet Tutorial

 

I haven’t tried to make any sweaters yet! I think I will try this one for my boys and my husband maybe add a couple of colors at the top. I watched the video looks interesting.

 

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Basic Mitten Cuff Tutorial

Trying to adjust the color of my lettering to burgundy and not remembering how makes this monday manic, frustration sets in for the awaken moodiness, and it’s tiring not only from that but the weather isn’t the greatest outside it’s cloudy, and rainy. the air is crisp and the temperature is an enjoyable 51 degree’s for winter this is outstanding.

Anyways, annoyed as I was when it was colder outside and not having a yard for my dog to run in is harder for anybody. To step out in the chilly air without any gloves or mittens was beyond reasonable. Upon returning inside the house trying to warm up my hands went to place my hands under warm water only to find it absolutely freezing, more freezing than the cold water. What on Earth? I ran the hot water for twenty minutes still cold. I thought: Who can I call to see if maybe my hot water tank flame blew out? Hmm, I wondered the neighbor was working, the man of the house was running errands, and I couldn’t get the wall off to see if the flame was out. Well I waited till 7 pm the man of the house came home and took down the wall and lit the flame and we had hot water. Woot-Woot 

Besides all of that my hands were still freezing, the temperature that day was minus 18 degree’s. I didn’t have any gloves or mittens. So I found this really neat video on how to make mittens, this is how to make the cuff first before the actual mitten itself.  I’m sure after this video is the second video on how to make the mitten. Pretty color and easy to make if you know how to crochet.

 

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Think of What You Have Instead of What You Want

Chapter 21 ~ Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff

In over a dozen years as a stress consultant, one of the most pervasive and destructive mental tendencies I’ve seen is that of focusing on what we want instead of what we have. It doesn’t seem to make any difference how much we have;  we just keep expanding our list of desires, which guarantees we will remain dissatisfied.  The mindset that says “I’ll be happy when this desire is fulfilled”  is the same mindset that will repeat itself once that desire is met. 

A friend of ours closed escrow on his new home on a Sunday. The very next time we saw him he was talking about his next house that was going to be even bigger! He isn’t alone.  Most of us do the very same thing, We want this or that.  If we don’t get what we want we keep thinking about all that we don’t have—and we remain dissatisfied.  If we do get what we want, we simply re-create the same thinking in our new circumstances.  So, despite getting what we want, we still remain unhappy.  Happiness can’t be found when we are yearning for new desires. 

Luckily, there is a way to be happy. It involves changing the emphasis of our thinking from what we want to what we have. Rather than wishing your spouse were different, try thinking about her wonderful qualities.  Instead of complaining about your salary, be grateful that you have a job. Rather than wishing that you could take a vacation to Hawaii, think of how much fun you have had close to home. The list of possibilities is endless! Each time you notice yourself falling into the ” I wish life were different” trap, back off and start over.  Take a breath and remember all that you have to be grateful for. When you focus on not what you want, but on what you have, you end up getting more of what you want anyway. If you focus on the good qualities, she’ll be more loving. If you are grateful for your job, rather than complaining about it, you’ll do a better job, be more productive, and probably end up getting a raise anyway. If you focus on ways to enjoy yourself around home rather than waiting to enjoy yourself in Hawaii, think of how much fun you have had close to home. The list of possibilites is endless! Each time you notice yourself falling into the “I wish life were different” trap back off and start over.  Take a breath and remember all that you have to be grateful for. When you focus on not what you want, but on what you have, you end up getting more of what you want  anyway.  If you focus on the good qualities of your spouse, he’ll be more loving. If you are grateful for your job rather than complaining about it, you’ll do a better job, be more productive, and probably end up getting a raise anyway. 

Make a note to yourself to start thinking more about what you have than what you want. If you do, your life will start appearing much better than before. For perhaps the first time in your life, you’ll know what it means to be satisfied.

 

 

Two Days

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HERE’S MY EXAMPLE OF THE SWIFFER SWEEPER COVER THAT I MADE IN TWO DAYS.

Hello All, I am quite busy since the holidays have passed, Birthday’s came and went. Then I’ve been crocheting small things while having the HUGE 6 foot blanket in between the little well needed things I’ve been making. I found a pattern for the swiffer mop. Yes the company makes these swiffer pads that you use once and throw away, depending on the size of container you buy. 8 count pads, 12 count pads or 36 count pads.  One day I ran out of the pads I had the 36 count ones. I bought the non-brand kind thought it was a great value and used 2 or 3 of them and was disappointed. Well as I was searching for a certain baby blanket pattern, I came across this pattern for a swiffer mop cover. I was ever so excited!! I just bought a couple months ago cotton yarn and was going to make cotton washcloths, towels, soap bar saver’s, scrubbies for dishes, and other cutsie things for my girls all handmade goodies placed in a light wicker basket all dressed up in pretty tissue paper with a pretty bow at the top handle for them.

Here’s the puicture that tickled me pink ~ 

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I made one. Told my oldest daughter about it and she wants one too. Before too long I’ll be making a bunch of them to sell. Maybe some for my sister’s for xmas next year. It took me two days to make and it wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. It actually works better than the swiffer wipes.  Not a bad Monday at all….

Luke Combs – Must’ve Never Met You

This can mean for a guy too!!