Narcissistic Mind Games of ASPD – Psychopath Violence – Victim Syndrome = I am in this group above on Facebook, it’s an amazing group that talks about Narcissistic Loved ones whom are in your life and the mind games and controlling behaviors they have.
Look it up and read the articles on Google if there is any. I’m about to discuss what I went through as a child to adulthood, I was always told I needed help, I was taken to many different counselors, and Psychologist’s all told my parent’s that I was a rebellious teenager, and nobody called me more of a brat than my mother. My oldest sibling once told me I was unwanted baby that she was given the opportunity to raise, that’s what she did. I have done some thing’s I’m not proud of, but if I was taught better and not abused physically, emotionally, and mentally I’d probably be more successful that I am now. I don’t regret my life and the way it is now, I just have been and lived through more things that the average bear, LOL!
However, I am an Entreprenuer. I made my own small business, I custom design Handmade Blankets and ship my items where ever they need to go, all I ask for is too be paid before you receive your blanket. Paid in the form of a money order in my name, and cash. Anyways I was explaining about my children and how successful they are and explaining my life to the group in a comment. My 1st born studying to become a Dr. in Psychology and Neuro Science, My 2nd born is a Pipe Fitter and has other area’s of study, plus a musician, my 3rd born was a manager and now has a job of Quality Control Specialist Appraiser. I think I have done pretty well for my children in their teaching’s while they were younger. They are building their empires now for themselves and their families. It’s not ONLY their successes it’s the struggle they went through to accomplish where they all are today. There might be one or two siblings that are jealousy of their intelligence my children have, I didn’t help them all the time with their homework, they are educated enough to do it for themselves. I am very blessed with my children. My siblings children are successful too not sure about the struggles they’ve been through,
Now they all are babied so they don’t know how to act and behave around others. Sure they’re polite, but you don’t go around other family members at a family event talk about your aunt, which I wasn’t many steps away from them. When I heard them making snide comments about me, cause they said my name in conversation. Maybe it wasn’t right for me to correct them, but I felt I had too. when I tried to correct them I know they were thinking in their minds, I am starting drama! but in reality, I am merely teaching them both a different way to see thing’s. What they were taught is it’s not okay to gossip and that if they have a problem with someone to go and discuss it with them to get it resolved. The common sense should have been taught in an early stage and their parents are just making matters worse by conditioning their children.
My siblings already have been calling me names that were recited by my parents, and after I came out of the hospital from having a nervous breakdown. I just try to over come their inability to understand where I’m coming from. I don’t think I’m wrong, I just think I’m knowledgeable, wisdom beyond my years, and educated in speaking with people in general. The know-how to express my feelings goes unnoticed a lot in the family. It’s a well known question they usually ask me on a daily, ” Did you take your medication today?” Just because someone has difficulty expressing their feelings with me in conversation, I’m usually at fault or blamed for anything they can put my name on. I try to defer the next explosion that comes after my upset and they make me cry caused by my internally guilty conscious from being a child.
After I had my nervous breakdown I was placed in a hospital and then had no contact with my husband for he was pressing charges against me, he claimed I was violent. How that whole incident came about it I wanted to see my Dad by myself on Father’s day without my husband being around. He told me No, that he wanted to go with me. I didn’t want him to go and he became mad. We struggled and He pressed charges against me. After my hospital stay I had to live with my parents for a while like 3 months, it was nerve wrecking, Their adults calling me names I never heard them say. It was totally inappropriate and after I went back home I didn’t see them again, at least for a while. Now I’m trusted It took me two years in therapy and 3 doctor’s to see me well again, better than I ever was.
I see the NPD = Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Traits in marriage as well in families, and friends too it’s hard cause you never thought they would play mind games to get what they want. I’m speaking Maybe it is a mind game that you have to decipher what it really is. he has a controlling behavior, and I try to go around his way of thinking. Mr. Perfect also tried to get my family against me as well as our children. This was an in depth problem that I was going through for year’s that I have focused and researched more on.
I understand the sickness and it’s frustrating. I’m overcoming it as time goes by and I keep researching this disorder to stay educated that I can spot it in anyone. The Golden child conditions the other siblings into controlling behavior through either parent. They also condition their children the same way, The scapegoat is the one that gets the negative treatment from the parents, friends, siblings, etc. . The parents of the scapegoats are verbally, Emotionally, physically, and mentally abused. Break you down to the point of feeling worthless, all abusers don’t care about you, they are self centered, selfish and has an huge ego, they spend money freely like their bank account has an endless supply of cash flow. Supposedly